Chastity contract

D/s: abbreviation for ‘dominant and submissive’ to reference a relationship in which the power balance is unequal, in favour of the dominant party.
Hard limits: boundaries set by an individual regarding types of play/interaction they will not consent to being involved in. Hard limits are non-negotiable and should be respected by everyone involved.

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Types of chastity relationships

There are three main forms of chastity dynamic: self-locked, chastity with a romantic and/or sexual partner and chastity with a professional keyholder.
Chastity with yourself

As we will be dealing with negotiating chastity contracts between multiple participants, we won’t cover self-locked chastity in-depth here as this only involves the user. However, should you wish to formalise your commitment to chastity on your own terms, you can adapt a standard contract to suit your needs and serve as extra encouragement or motivation.

Self-imposed chastity is often used to help with personal goals such as weight loss or addiction or to enhance solo sexual/erotic play.
Chastity with your partner

Any chastity arrangement between two or more people in a relationship should ideally be mutually beneficial and a contract is often drawn up to share the needs/desires of each party, or as a way of committing to their ongoing relationship.

A chastity contract between partners or lovers will vary according to the practicalities of the relationship. Contracts between cohabitees typically contain requirements particular to the couple’s living arrangements, i.e. performance of household chores.

For those in non-cohabiting or long-distance relationships it is less likely to focus on the fulfillment of domestic duties but fortunately many services can also be rendered to the keyholder remotely. For example, the user may be required to manage their keyholder’s online diary, order their weekly groceries or assist with any other administrative tasks.